Separation anxiety in childhood is the anxiety that goes along with the fear of being separated from parents or parent figures.
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Separation anxiety is a
common psychological problem in children. It appears at about 8 months of age
and may continue until about the age of 2. These children fear that harm will
come to them or they will be lost when their parents or caregivers are away.
They may also fear that some harm might occur to their parents. Separation
anxiety may not occur until there is some change in the child's routine or a
stressful event occurs. This can
include starting preschool, a parent starting to work outside the home,
changing schools, or a serious illness.
From a psychological point of view, the anxiety that a child feels when he or
she is separated from a parent or caregiver means that the child has a secure
attachment to the parent. The child is beginning to understand that people are
separate beings and that a parent can be somewhere else. The child is anxious
because he or she wants the parent to remain close.
Young children do not understand the concept of time. They do not understand
that when a caregiver is not at their side they do not fail to exist or will
never return. Separation anxiety should be considered serious when the child
remains upset in a new setting or with a new caretaker for more than a few
weeks. The anxiety may be severe enough to interrupt normal playing, eating,
and sleep habits. When this occurs, counseling may be necessary.
Some suggestions for coping with separation anxiety include:
A child should have the chance to get familiar with a new environment
before he or she is left there.
A parent should be understanding and accept the child's feelings without
giving in to them.
The child should be reassured that the parent or caregiver will come back
at a specific time. The parent should then be sure to arrive on time.
The child should be told ahead of time about the separation. This helps him
or her prepare for the separation.
The parent shouldn't sneak away from the child. This will only make matters
worse. The child will be on guard in the future.
The parent should try some short-term separations, such as going into
another room and reappearing. This can help the child learn that the absence is
The parents should reinforce the positive aspects of the event. This can
include reassuring the child that he or she will have a good day at daycare or
The parent should make the child feel secure by giving him or her lots of
love and attention.
The parents should not reveal their own feelings of anxiety about the
separation. This alerts the child that something may be wrong.
Most children experience some degree of anxiety when separated from a loved
one. In general,
there should be few problems if:
the child is in a generally good mood
is eating properly
enjoying himself or herself
there is no significant change in behavior